THINGS THAT YOU CAN DO TO DEAL WITH HARASSMENT

Talking about harassment, it comes in many forms. But the most common of all, aside from verbal abuse, are sexual harassment, stalking, and extreme bullying. Well, these are issues addressed to the society that we live. And I should say, this is not a safe world anymore. Nowadays, you have to be aware of the people you contact with and the places where you go, for threat is always around the corner.

When you are being harassed, there are so many things that you can do to deal with that person harassing you. This article aims to increase your knowledge on the practical things that you can do to stop harassment. Well, with enough knowledge on what to do, you will be able to stop people from making your life miserable through harassment. You only have to consider the following.

But before that, let me tell you this. This article is applicable to all. The reason why you are increasing in knowledge on what to do when being harassed is because you will also apply this to your loved ones. When your loved ones are experiencing harassment, and they have shared this to you, it is about time to do something. And do not just do something without knowing how. With proper knowledge, you will see the good result. So here are the things that you can do to deal with harassment.

Evaluate yourself if you are really being harassed. Well, sometimes it depends upon our perception of things. But, to make it sure, you have to evaluate yourself. Are you really being harassed or not? There are people who can take jokes and there are people who are not. Our tolerance on the things that we experience around us differs. This is the reason why you have to make it sure you are really being harassed. Observe around you.You know yourself. Try to evaluate yourself if you are only being emotional and overreacting or that person went too far with his words and actions. Well, if you do this, you will be able to recognize what a harassment from not. It pays to evaluate yourself first.

Tell others to stop doing what you don’t like them to do. In continuation to the first one, once you have evaluated yourself and figured out the things that you don’t want others to do to you, tell them to stop. Sometimes people around us don’t stop doing things because nobody told them to stop. It is about time to tell them to stop. Tell them that you don’t like being catcalled. Tell them that you don’t like being called by a certain alias. Tell them that what they are doing to you is a form of harassment and bullying.

There are times when it is hard to confront them personally because you are protecting something like your friendship. If this is the issue, you can write a letter or tell someone to tell him. Well, I cannot promise you that that person will not be offended, but that is better than experiencing harassment over and over. And one thing, once you have done that do not ever apologize.

If telling him doesn’t stop him from harassing you, tell him to stay away from you. Let’s say you have already written a letter or confronted that person to stop harassing you but he doesn’t stop. If that is the case, it is about time to tell him to distant from you. Tell him to stop contacting you. Tell him to stop dealing with you. And you can do something about it. You can stop your conversation with that person by not sending messages on social media nor text messages. If that person happened to be someone you see everyday, you can set an avoidance plan. You can also tell that person to stop getting close to you. Just let him feel that you are not comfortable with what he is doing.

Cut your connection with that person on phone and on social media. Another thing that you can do to stop being harassed is to stop making conversation with that person. If things are becoming worse, you can delete the number of that person from your phone or you can also change your number. If that person happened to be a contact of yours in social media, you can also unfriend or block that person. When you don’t have any contact with him, you will see things will become better.

Keep every evidences of harassment. There are times when you have done everything to cut your connection with that person and still he harasses you. If that is the case, you have to make things documented. Do not delete the messages on the phone and on social media of that person harassing you because you will make use of that as an evidence or proof of harassment.

Nowadays, gadgets are so powerful, the reason why you have to make use of them to document or record anything that has happened to you. Well, when a person tries to harass you, you can set-up a hidden camera in with you so that you will be able to record something that will make your statements stronger when you filed a complaint. You can also take note of the people who have witnessed the incident.

Report the incident to someone in the position. It depends upon the location of the harassment. If it happened in your school, the best thing to do is report it to the principal, teacher, administrator, etc. This is in order for that person to receive disciplinary action. If it happened in work place, you can report it to your boss, manager, administrator, etc. Just report the incident to someone in the position. He has the power to intervene. If this is done, you and that person will have to talk in front of him to settle the issue, looking forward that things will change for the better.

Call the police if it becomes threatening. If the harassment comes to a certain level wherein it already threatens your life and your security, it is about time to call the police. This is the reason why you have with you always the emergency numbers. There are instances when that person who is harassing you will stop what he is doing the moment he notices that you are reporting him to the police. Again, you should always have the contact number of police precincts near you. This is for your safety. Another thing is if you and your family is in grave danger, a restraint order is the best solution. You will file this one and you will go through court hearing.

If violation of the restraining order happens, report it to the police immediately. Once a restraining order is issued, the person who is harassing you will have to abide with it. So, if there is a circumstance when it is violated by that person, report it to the police immediately. That might result to criminal charges filed against him. Well, you have to be aware of your rights.

Make sure everyone in your circle are aware of what is happening to you.  This is something that you need to do so that you will increase your safety. The people around you should know what is going on with you. This is due to the fact that there are instances when the harasser will ask for information about you. If they are being informed about the name of the harasser, they will be warned not to disclose any information about you. You have to inform also the members of the family about your location for emergency purposes. No matter how near you are going, you have to tell them. This is for your safety.

Be aware of your social media activities. If there is a threat in your life, it is about time to be aware of your every activity in social media. Well, it is good to post your activities in social media because this is a form of self-expression. But take note that you are going through something, the reason why you have to limit your disclosure of your information. When you are being stalked by someone, do not ever show your location or the place where you are going. Nowadays, gadgets have the capacity to automatically show your location and that is something that you have to take note. Being aware of your social media activities is a must.

Practice self defense. For emergency purposes, you have to practice self defense. You can enroll on a formal training if you want to. Or you can read about some practical tips that you can do to defend yourself anytime. Having the skills to defend yourself is a must nowadays, especially that this is not a safe world anymore. Well, this is something that you need to put into consideration. Be wise enough to do this.

These are things that you can do to deal with harassment. I hope it helps a lot.